Hey Stranger! How I'm looking after my mental health in 2021

2 January 2021

mental health 2021 goals
Mental health 2021 goals

Hey Stranger,

Long time, no see. It’s been a while since I sat in front of my laptop and just typed. I feel a little rusty if I’m honest so bare with me. To say this year has been a roller coaster would be an understatement. Amid all the painful moments there were a handful worth celebrating. I think we can all agree it's for the best to put last year behind us.

I struggled a lot with my mental health last year and ended up cutting back on a lot of the things I loved doing. I took a long break from social media and blogging when things got too much and then felt a little out of my depth when I wanted to come back. One thing I missed the most was being creative and producing content. One of my goals for 2021 is to be consistent with my content. 

A lot has happened since I last wrote a blog post. One of those things is I’m now working as a journalist. Me! This is something I have been dreaming about since I was in year 11. It’s a completely new field for me and I’m really enjoying it. Writing about more formal topics at work has made me miss what I was writing about when I was blogging. This space has been a place for me to write about beauty, fashion, books and my favourite places in London. A lot of the things that “fed my soul”, if you will, ended up closing during the lockdowns and in the new tiered system. I wasn't very good at finding alternatives, that I could to, to all those things.

The pandemic threw more than I realised and one thing I'm focusing on this year is my mental health. Last year taught me how important a good mental health is in being able to function. After all, we’re only human and we can only take so on much.

Here’s a couple of things I’ll be doing to look after my mental health this year:
  • Be kinder to myself. Funnily enough, I wrote a blog post on this and never followed any of it. I can count on one hand how many times I have been kind to myself this year. It’s quite shocking really. As the pandemic continues, I’m going to have to rethink what things I can do to bring me happiness since what I used to do has been put on pause. Taking it easier and not putting so much pressure on myself are my two priorities. 
  • Have more ME time. For the whole year, I have felt that my time belonged to someone else. I think that’s been a big cause of my anxiety. This year, I’m focusing on taking ‘protected’ time out for just me. I started doing it last Autumn and it really helped. Essentially, Sunday will belong to me. For that day, I will do whatever I want to do whether it’s catching up on my latest read, creating content or going for a nice stroll. The most important thing is feeling as though that time belongs to me and no one else.
  • Be creative. I thrive on creativity. It’s one of the reasons why I wanted to make writing my career. I used to bake, cook, write, read, and film. I loved it all! I mentioned earlier that I stopped  doing those things when everything got a little too much. Really, I should have kept those things going. 

Love, Aoife xo


  1. It’s so important to look after your mental health. I’m glad you’re prioritising it this year. You’ve chosen some great ways to go about it too. Having more ‘me’ time will work wonders for you. Just getting to enjoy the things you love and you’re passionate about. I hope 2021 brings you happiness, health and success x

  2. Thank you!! I hope you have a great new year too x

  3. It's so important to look after your mental health and be kinder to yourself. Great post! xx


  4. Congratulations on your job! Being kinder to yourself is easier said than done. But if you have an awareness of the problem you can work towards improving on it. Amongst all the bad things this year, I just want to remind you that you deserved to graduate, you deserve this job, and you so deserve to be happy. Best wishes for the new year!

    Kate | https://asimplesliceofkate.com/

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words!! I agree, it's always easier to work towards something when you know what you're looking for x

  5. It's so important to take care of your mental health, especially with the state of the world being what it is. Being kinder to yourself is so much easier said than done, it's something I'd like to work on as well x